Not really sure where to post this but he's family so...

My brother, 18, has always lived with my mum. He has been sheltered from quite a lot and always treated like he is younger than he is. As a consequence I think his mental age is about 14 - 16 years old??

Now he's living with me, for the time being and will soon have to go out into the big wide world on his own, he is so not ready.

He's never had a job, and not really motivated past doing what he has to to be paid by c'link.

For the last 2 weeks he's been following me around the house and everywhere else like a lost little puppy, patially - I think - because he is bored and doesn't know how to entertain himself without his computer and... well I'm sure theres other reasons but I just can't pin point them.

He makes thinking noises like "hmm" randomly throughout the day. It's wierd and giving me the irrits. I ask "what?" and he says "nothing". soo annoying!

Obviously theres more to him than this, he is actually quite intelligent, just childish and lazy. Mum could never get him to do anything so she just gave up, he will listen to me though if I ask him to help out.

So what can I do?

How can I help him grow up a bit?

How can I get him to stop following me around the house watching everything I do?

How can I help him get a job at 18 with no experience and no qualifications?

How can I get him out of the house so that can have my life back?

Blah. I didn't actually want a full grown child just yet, I was happy with my toddler *sigh*





ETA- I realise he needs to want this to happen and I can't force it on him but where do I even start?